amycooper | (no subject)

So my brother didn't lose custody of his daughter today. The judge is postponing things until Dec. 6th

Moreover, after my mother told me this she told me the full (or just more of?) the story.

So apparently this is what happened: My mother picked up my brother and his daughter one day to take my brother to work (he can't drive) and to watch Mia. At that same time Crystal (Mia's mother who is barred from seeing her) came to pick up something at my brother's trailer. The CPS person saw (my mother say that my brother says that the new CPS person and he do not get along and he feels she has it out of him).

The judge looked over the facts and (according to my mom who heard it from my brother) decided that 1. CPS over-reached by keeping watch my brother's house 2. it was pretty incidental and 3. apparently the order to keep Crystal away from Mia was poorly written and does not state how far she needs to stay away. So the judge has encouraged my brother to seek out a lawyer and it is unlikely, if what information I'm getting is true, that Mia will be taken away from him.

But here's the thing. My mother was there. Instead of saying to me: "I saw that your brother passed by Crystal while holding Mia when I picked him up, gee I hope nothing comes of it." What I got was an ominous: "Your brother is doings he shouldn't and I suspect he'll get Mia taken away from him don't tell anyone else, no I will not tell you what." And after sitting on that for three weeks she hits me with: "You're brother's been allowing Crystal near Mia and will now likely lose her-don't tell anyone especially your brother who is in trouble."

I mean, here she made it sound like Crystal was hanging out with my brother and Mia all the time (which she does suspect but doesn't really know) but that wasn't exactly the situation he was caught in so why make it out to be this whole. big. thing.

Oh yeah, because she's my mother and that's what she does. *sigh*

I'm kind of sick of these mind games, really.

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Wow, sorry for all the uncertainty and stress.

Thanks.

Well, I'm glad your brother didn't lose custody. I hope that the experience will make him be more cautious, though - the stories seem odd to me, from an outside perspective.

Sorry for your mom's drama.

Yeah it does. One has to keep in mind this is coming from my mother who is getting it from my brother and both have a long and storied history of distorting the facts.

your mother just *needs* drama in her life, even if she has to create it. I am sorry for you, and for Mia.

Yeah, she does. *sigh*

I just need to remind myself to be much more cautious about believing what she says.